I speak from experience in this area in regards to my relationship with my husband, Alex. When we reconciled after our eight-month separation in 2003, there where some things that needed to be forgiven and forgotten for us to come back together. I needed to trust him and open myself up to him and be vulnerable again for us to once again achieve true intimacy in our relationship. I tried so hard and worked at it like you would not believe, but kept coming up short. I could not just let it all go without feeling out of control. I was really starting to believe it was hopeless when I read a book that changed my life. "A Return to Love" by Marianne Williamson taught me the practice of surrendering. She writes about surrendering what is impossible for you to bear to a the Holy Spirit or a “higher power”, whatever you believe in and ask it/him/her to do it for you. Okay, I know, I thought the same thing when I read it, too. “It can’t be that easy, nothing works like that”. I am here to testify as a human experiment, that it DOES work!
I thought of all of the anger, resentment and inability to trust I was carrying around with me and visually placed it at the “feet” of the Holy Spirit and said, “this is too big for me
